Stop Regretting Your Past (How to Rewrite Your History)

A recent study has revealed it's completely possible to change your past. Here's how.

Do you ever find yourself stuck in a thought-loop, regretting your past?

Mistakes you've made, things you wish you would've done differently, or things that happened you want erase from your memory?

Most people waste their entire lives rolling in shame, regret, and victimhood, and acting as a helpless victim of their history.

But what if it was possible to go back in time and rewrite your life's story?

What if your past no longer controlled your thoughts and the way you feel about yourself, but instead became the molten that forges you into becoming the greatest version of yourself?

I'm going to share a way to literally change your past, including a recent scientific study that proves not only is this possible, but by doing so we can alleviate depression, give our lives more meaning, and become happier and more fulfilled.

But before I share how to do this with you, I want to share a personal story...

When I was 17, I put myself on in the hospital from a drug overdose. I had recently dropped out of high school and spent most of my days hanging with street punks, panhandling for beer money and getting obliterated any chance I could get.

One night while partying with my friends, we decided to go on a complete 12 hour bender of ecstasy, alcohol, and coke.

This insane night completely taxed my body and I ended up getting rushed to the ER and spent 4 nights in the hospital.

It was one of the lowest points of my life, and for years I felt deeply ashamed of sharing this story.

But the worst part was, after I got out of the hospital I was left with crippling anxiety.

I was so anxious I could barely leave my house.

I started sweating through my shirts 24/7.

I had insane insomnia and couldn't sleep at night.

I developed a compulsion where I would constantly be checking my pulse to make sure my heart was still beating and I wasn't dying.

I felt like I was going completely insane.

I was high-strung, stressed, and felt like absolute shit 90% of the time.

For years after my overdose I was filled with regret. I felt like such a fucking idiot for messing my body up so bad and breaking my brain, destroying my health, and and making my life miserable.

I had no idea if I would ever be able to get better. I thought I might be stuck as this tense, anxious, sweaty man for the rest of my life.

It wasn't until nearly a decade later, that I began to rewrite my past.

I no longer saw the the drugs, the overdose, the depression and anxiety as regrets - they began to become an integral part of my story.

I started to understand that going through all of that pain and suffering was one of the best things that ever happened to me.

When I started dealing with severe anxiety, I started to look at my mental and physical health in a way I never had before.

I was desperate to alleviate my symptoms, and was willing to try anything to feel better.

This is when I started exploring personal development work, exercise and nutrition, and a spiritual path in a serious way.

I started practicing yoga, meditating, and becoming aware of what I put in my body.

Once I started feeling better because of the things I was doing, I was only more inspired to keep searching.

This eventually led to working with psychedelics in a ceremonial environment, attending personal development seminars and programs, and ultimately culminated into what I do today - helping others remove what's holding them back, heal their spirit, and become legendary leaders of their own lives.

None of this would've been possible if I didn't eat a bunch of ecstasy pills one night 17 yers ago.

When I started to see this rock-bottom moment as a massive initiation into becoming the man I am meant to be, the story no longer held me back.

Instead, it became an integral part of my hero's journey.

I was able to go back in time and change the story.

Of course, what actually happened will never change.

But I discovered that what actually happened is far less important than the meaning I apply to it.

Humans live through story.

We always have.

From sitting around a fire recounting stories of our recent hunt 100,000 years ago, to watching YouTuber vloggers share the story of their day - we make sense of our lives through stories.

As I began this process of re-writing the narrative of my life, I began exploring classic heroic stories.

Every single time. it was tragedies the hero faced that catalyzed their meteoric rise to power.

It also seemed to hold that the more painful the challenges, the more powerful the hero became.

Bruce Wayne wouldn’t have become Batman if his parents weren’t murdered in cold blood right in front of his eyes. It was only after that immense tragedy did Bruce claim he was committed to avenge their death and declare war on criminals.

Our pain, suffering, victimhood, and regret are the origins of our redemption story.

Without these trials, our life is meaningless.

We can either remain in victimhood or self-loathing, or we can choose to let our past empower us.

We are always in control of our story.

At any time, we can choose to apply an entirely new meaning to whatever we have gone through.

Our life can transform from a series of random events that we have no control over, to the weaving of an epic myth of tragedy, loss, redemption, and eventual victory.

It's not enough to just accept everything that has happened to us, but we must use it as the fuel to rise to heights we never imagined possible.

We must give up pretending that we can control our life.

We cannot anticipate our destiny, or waste any more time trying to understand why our life went a particular way.

Instead, we must learn to trust the forces at work that are far more intelligent than us.

Forces that are shaping us into the character we are meant to become.

To recognize we are walking a hero's journey is to accept life is just an on-going series of deeper initiations.

Joseph Campbell, the famed writer who popularized the hero's journey, coined this part of our journey The Road of Trials.

This is the central part of our lives - the things we face, the mistakes we make, the pain and suffering we endure, guides us into building the strength and tenacity to face the ultimate challenge and find the holy grail.

These trials also force us trust that we will be taken care of by life.

The people, resources, and help we need will come to our aid exactly when we need it.

We have no other choice but to surrender to the benign power of God, or spirit, or the universe - whatever you want to call it.

The idea behind using the Hero's Journey as a tool of transformation isn't just something I'm making up - a recent study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology discovered that reshaping personal narratives to align with archetypal stories works to improve our lives.

They found that when study participants re-wrote their life story using the Hero's Journey archetype, they found people were less depressed, found more meaning, and higher levels of satisfaction with their life.

What this study proves is that we have the power to change the history of our lives whenever we want.

If you breakdown your life into the objective, things are just happening.

What you make the content of your life mean - whether it's good or bad, wrong or right, is totally up to you.

You're the only person that get's to choose what your life means.

The reality is most people don't want to take this level of responsibility.

It's easier to stay in victimhood and blame others rather than rise to the occasion and boldly become the hero of your own story.

Modern society is obsessed with self-loathing, blame, and nihilism.

We're encouraged to find ways to stay victimized and come up with excuses as to why we're not capable of doing anything with our lives.

The idea of calling ourselves a hero is quickly called out as egoic or contrived.

Anyone who has even a grain of personal power is seen as self-aggrandizing and toxic.

If we're not going to be the main character of our lives, fighting our battles, going through our initiations, and seeking for the holy grail - than who is?

Are we going to stand on the sidelines, doomscrolling social media to watch other people live their heros journey, while we live in a pit of despair and unworthiness because of some stupid shit we did a decade ago?

If we're bold and courageous enough to become the hero of our own story, we begin realize the divine perfection of our life.

We recognize it couldn't have gone any other way.

We wouldn't want it to.

All the pain, all the sorrow, all the fucked up things that left us confused and asking "Why?" start to make sense.

Regret is a product of what we perceive as mistakes. But when we accept that's happened, mistakes can no longer exist.

If there are no mistakes, only deeper initiations, it is impossible for regret to exist any longer.

If you're reading/watching this, don't let it become another concept you passively entertained.

Become the hero of your life today: pull out a journal and re-write your life story in the context of your personal hero's journey.

Go as far back in your life, and write your biography as if you are the main character.

Sincerely explore every one of your pains, challenges, and trials.

How were these necessary steps in giving you the strength and perseverance to moving towards your ultimate destiny?

The failed relationships, the bullying, the shitty choices and shameful regrets..how were all of these events absolutely necessary in refining you into who you MUST become?

Begin to liberate yourself from your past, and make a commitment to facing everything in your life moving forward from the place of the hero.

Do this, and you will never regret anything that's ever happened in your life again...